telling it how it is

just come back from pre-chag party on the rooftops of Jerusalem. it was a regular jerusalem shindig -- nice breeze, ok music and police arriving on the dot at 12.30 because thats the one time police ever respond seriously to a complaint in this country. yes it was about average in everyway including the regular gender party ratio -- approx 70% women, 30% men.

dont worry i'm not going to spend my time moaning the well-rehearsed complaint of quantity imbalance compounded by dearth of quality. but rather i'm just going to tell you how it is:
- it's sad
- it's unfair
- it's confusing
- it's illogical
- it's disheartening
- it's draining
i know so many wonderful women who are single. and while we prove daily that our lives are multi-faceted and made for far more than just husband-hunting, at the end of the day we shouldnt have to retract our ideologies just to admit we dont want to be alone.

yes yes you can tell us that "marriage isnt simple either/doesnt solve anything" and "that it only takes one" till you're blue in the face but that doesnt negate the fact that it's just wrong that it has to be this way. i see fat, thin, evil, lovely, friendly, ugly, wierd, intelligent women with mates. it makes no sense that they found and others havent. it may only take one but the energy spent looking or being cool by not looking, preferring to be found, trying again and again, erodes into your essence over the years. for an honest share on the topic read noa's recent brave and raw posts.

i'm not crying or feeling depressed as i write this. i'm feeling surprisingly lucid and bright about life. i just feel like i'm stuck in a nightmare quotient screw-up where the authorities have to regrettfully announce that due to faulty calculations life-partners on earth will have to be rationed.

i'm sure within the week i'll be back to using my singledom as comedy material but just for today i'd thought i'd tell it how it is.